How advertising turns our insecurities into profit — and how you can resist the manipulation

Source: The Conversation – Canada

Have you ever bought something not because you wanted it, but because you were afraid of what might happen if you didn’t? Maybe you worried about looking older, falling behind at work or simply not fitting in.

While marketing often promises an aspirational lifestyle, some of the most effective campaigns work in the opposite direction: making you feel bad about your current reality, then presenting a product as the solution.

This is the logic of pain-point advertising, and emotions are central to its efficiency.

Emotional content in advertising can be framed positively or negatively. When advertisers choose to frame it negatively, they aim to show that not using their product could lead to negative experiences, often illustrated by the characters’ negative emotions in the ad.

How pain-point advertising works

Companies that develop goods and services need to establish a presence in the market, stimulate consumer demand and generate profits. Advertising uses a range of strategies to achieve those goals, but emotional content remains a staple across the industry.

Research in cognitive and behavioural science suggests that consumers don’t make decisions through rational calculation alone, and that emotions play an important role.

One reason may be the way our brains make sense of the world. The human brain is a predictive machine that constantly uses past experiences to anticipate what will happen next.

Throughout our lives, we accumulate experiences that help us form increasingly accurate expectations and make better decisions. When our experiences confirm those expectations, there is little reason for the brain to change course. We can continue relying on what we already know.

But when reality contradicts what we expected, the mismatch can trigger a negative emotional response. The discrepancy signals that something about our expectations or behaviour may need to change.

This is the very mechanism that pain-point advertising exploits. For instance, an advertisement might draw attention to a gap between how we see ourselves, and how we believe we should look. The advertised product is then presented as a way to close that gap.

Advertising shapes out expectations

But where do those expectations come from? Much of the knowledge and information we use to form our assumptions is socially constructed. We learn from family, friends, institutions, media and the broader culture around us.

We live in a hyper-competitive society shaped in part by the ideology of meritocracy. Resources, like money and job positions, are limited, and consumers are encouraged to invest in solutions that will help them succeed.

Health, education, appearance, careers and personal fulfilment can all be framed as problems that have a purchasable solution. Social validation reinforces this process. When we make what appears to be the right choice, approval from others strengthens our assumptions and makes the behaviour more likely to continue.

Advertising contributes to this process by defining and sharing social standards of success that consumers can use as a baseline for judging themselves and making purchase decisions.

Consider the pressure teenagers feel to buy products when scrolling on social media platforms in order to conform to unattainable physical standards. When brands use pain-point advertising, they reinforce the social standards consumers are expected to meet and link their achievements to purchasing their goods.

Pain-point advertising can expose consumers to the risk of social pain. If they do not purchase the advertised product, they may fear experiencing negative emotions such as shame, embarrassment or rejection by their social group.

Our brain processes social pain in a similar way to physical pain. Negative emotional experiences are physically felt; this is one of the reasons why pain-point advertising is so effective.

How you can resist

The good news is that not every advertisement has the same power over us. Our brain pays attention to what is relevant to our mental model of reality. A car advertisement has little chance of gaining the attention of a non-driver.

The challenge is greater when an advertisement speaks directly to our goals, fears and expectations. Resisting these messages requires us to build and continually revise our mental models using sources beyond the products being marketed to us.

Developing critical-thinking skills, considering alternatives and learning from other people’s experiences can all help you deal with pain point marketing.

So can seeking knowledge and experience outside commercial marketing, which can give us different ways of understanding what is normal, desirable or necessary.

In other words, we can make mainstream standards less desirable so the brain no longer pays attention to these triggers. The goal is to recognize when an advertisement is fabricating a problem for us before offering to sell us the solution.

The power of repetition

A single advertisement may make us feel insecure for a few seconds. We can ignore it, scroll past it or decide that the product is not for us. The larger concern is what happens when these messages are repeated.

We experience two types of emotions: esthetic and utilitarian. Esthetic emotions are experienced vicariously or at a distance, such as when watching a movie, and do not normally trigger an immediate response in us. In contrast, utilitarian emotions arise in response to immediate threats and motivate us to take action.

Pain-point advertising is unlikely to trigger utilitarian emotions or an immediate response. The emotional experience remains at a distance, and the gap between seeing an advertisement and making a purchase may be long enough for the initial emotional response to fade.

However, repeated exposure to pain-point advertisements can affect our mental models of reality, including assumptions about how we should look, behave and live, and what a good life is supposed to be.

Mathieu Lajante, PhD, is Associate Professor of Marketing and Director of Emotions, Machines and Organizations Lab (EMOLAB) at the Ted Rogers School of Management, Toronto Metropolitan University. He is also Founder and Principal at BomaliQ, and receives no funding from any company or organization that would benefit from this article.

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